Unhealthy or Abusive Behaviors

If something in your relationship doesn’t feel right, it could be that it’s unhealthy, abusive, or even violent. As the person who is experiencing this behavior, it is up to you to decide how it makes you feel.


Are there unhealthy behaviors in your relationship?

  • Calls or texts too much
  • Ignores your opinion
  • Has trust issues (constantly checking your emails, texts, or wanting to know where you are)
  • Ignores your need to spend time with your friends and family or doesn’t give you “alone” time
  • Focuses on the relationship lasting forever
  • Thinking you can change your partner
  • Lots of relationship drama (the silent treatment, lying, cheating, jealousy)
  • Other behaviors you are concerned about and not sure if they are unhealthy? Chances are if it doesn’t feel right to you, it’s not healthy.

If you are checked any of these behaviors, think about whether you should stay in this relationship.

Where to get help

If someone is in immediate danger, call 911.

If you or a friend might be in an abusive relationship, talk to a parent/caregiver, a school counselor, or another adult you trust, or a local domestic or sexual violence program.

Hotline Numbers

National Dating Abuse Helpline

1-866-331-9474 or

www.loveisrespect.org to chat online

National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

National Sexual Assault Hotline

1-833-656-HOPE (4673) or
www.rainn.org to chat online

Are there abusive behaviors in your relationship?

  • Does not respect your decisions
  • Keeps you away from friends or family
  • Obsesses with knowing what you are doing
  • Puts you down, humiliates or demeans you
  • Pressures you to use alcohol or drugs or have sex
  • Acts mean or gets angry quickly
  • You are fearful you will make your partner mad
  • Follows you or shows up uninvited all the time
  • Threatens suicide or threatens to hurt themselves, you, or someone you care about
  • Hitting, slapping, shoving and other ways of physically hurting you
  • Refuses to believe the relationship is over
  • Treats you badly , promises to change, then never does
  • Other behaviors you are miserable or concerned about and not sure if they are abusive? Chances are if it doesn’t feel right to you, it’s not healthy.

If you checked any of the abusive behaviors, even one, click here for more information. Reach out to an adult you trust, get help – people care.